Recently Laura Cruz and I interviewed Amy Devi Harris (who will be a speaker with us at the Unleashing Success Conference) about a blog post she wrote a few months back. Her blog post was entitled “I can’t afford it“. This post spoke to me because I hear that phrase from so many people…
and in the past, I used to also say that… a lot……..
This line in her post really got to me:
“When you say “I can’t afford it” what you are really saying is I’m unable to accomplish it. I can’t afford it is limiting your realm of possibility, and limiting what you think you are capable of.”
But what I realized as I read this, is that generally the clients that I work with for Life Coaching have the limiting belief, not that they aren’t willing or capable, or that they don’t want to step out of their comfort zone, but more that they don’t feel like they are worth it. Maybe it is because that is where I started my journey from, or maybe it’s just because many people don’t feel like they deserve …fill in the blank…. I lived for years thinking that I was less than, and that everyone else’s needs were more important that mine.
Years ago in a group bible study that I went to at a friends house, I remember feeling worn out and exhausted from all of the demands of being a mother and house keeper and wife and maid and cook and nurse and taxi and the list goes on….right? How many women can relate to this?? One night she said something that was like an “ah-ha” moment for me. She said: You need to take care of yourself…….?????? What?? You mean we’re allowed to take care of ourself? I thought we were supposed to take care of everyone else? Then she went on to give me an analogy… A mother lion always feeds herself first because if she isn’t strong and healthy then she would not be able to protect and care for her cubs.
WOW! That totally made sense to me.
Now as women it isn’t as much about feeding ourselves with a big hunk of meat…but it is about feeding ourselves emotionally, physically and spiritually. It is important for us women to have other women to support us and connect with us and basically have our back!
I love that this covers all of the things that are important to me……Self care, empowering women and supporting each other, which is exactly why Laura and I created Unleashing Success in the first place!
I hope you’ll watch the video and then join me on facebook to discuss your thoughts/feeling/emotions that come up for you when you think about if you can afford it. Whatever ” it ” may be…
I’m excited about having discussion with you on this subject! Come find me on Facebook!
Till next time,